Christmas can be a conundrum for me. I flit between wanting to make sure I spend ‘enough’ (whatever enough may be) and making sure I don’t buy things that I know will be not needed and so returned to the shop or tucked away in a draw, completely forgotten!
I love buying gifts for others and always choose carefully – with the recipients personality, likes and dislikes in mind. I’m sure you do the same – although when I read of ‘the MIL that bought her DIL a beige bath mat, and her son a stained jumper’ – I do wonder if we should all just make a donation to a charity instead of buying presents that simply have no thought for the recipient??
I can sort of forgive this MIL (a friends MIL btw) – perhaps she is old and has little money (yes, I am grasping at straws) but those that really get my goat are those that buy a totally inappropriate gift for someone…because they ‘the buyer’ would have liked it for themselves.
I mean, imagine if I bought you a horse blanket and you didn’t have a horse? Or a picture of a landscape when you clearly love abstract? Or a pipe??? What would you think? Would it endear the buyer to you – or make you despair of whether they really cared enough about you to put it a bit of thought once a year?
It seems that children are getting as difficult to buy for as adults. By the age of about seven they seem to have it all; technical gadgets, tv’.s, bikes, prams, lots of Lego, and the latest craze (little ponies and batman I can do, but ‘Minions’?? Yuck!). I only hope that, post-Christmas, their parents encourage the children to take some old/not used toys and donate them – to enable less fortunate children to make good use of them.
As for us adults, what to buy eh? I know our friends are challenged by the question, ‘What on earth can we buy for Leigh and Tom?’ – and have done ever since we began our rather itinerant lifestyle. When you are limited, space-wise, everyone has to think even more deeply about what to buy.
Our family and friends excelled this year, with gifts of several fragrant candles (which I love), luxury food (who can resist a quirky chutney or a tasty pate/cheese), alcohol (noooo! – shows how well our f and f know us), thermals, welly socks, fragrance, clothes, NB related gifts, and even vouchers for dinner and dog-sitting (simply fab for us), which made our Christmas the ‘best presents ever received’; it also demonstrates how thoughtful our family and friends are. No wonder I love them all so much.
Have a wonderful 2017 and thanks for listening to my thoughts…rabbiting on – it’s just a Girl Thing (for me anyway)
PS I did get a pipe!!! But…I had wanted one for years and years and years and as a ‘Liveaboard’ I will sit occasionally, in the bow, puffing on my pipe whilst reflecting on what the future holds. Or at least what I will make it hold as I truly believe that we are all in charge of our own destiny! That’s all for now…puff!! ??
working on TMA 2 I can substantiate the time I waste flicking through the speeches ??