26 June 2018 – Positivity and generosity!
Do you ever go through periods where everything you touch seems to be against you…and then periods where everything is bright as a button? I guess so – I believe we all do.
Whilst all is not rosy in my family life right now, there are always positives to be found and during the last week I have found many things to be appreciative of, and for.
One positive is the many good friends I have. Some friends I see and hear from pretty regularly; some I don’t see or hear from for ages – yet I have built strong bonds with my friends and when we do manage to catch up it is always wonderful.
Take my friend ‘S’ – whom I met when we were both in the Navy and based in London (me working in Whitehall and ‘S’ working at several places, such as Chequers).
‘S’ and her OH were visiting Stratford-on-Avon over the weekend, and had contacted me a few weeks back with a loose plan to meet up on Sunday. My OH wasn’t too well so I went on my own on Sunday evening to meet ‘S’, her OH ‘P’, plus two friends of theirs (also both ex-navy) namely ‘S’ and ‘A’. We had a brilliant evening, chatting, eating and drinking and generally catching up on each other’s lives. It was interesting to spend time with ‘S’ and ‘A’ too; in fact, ‘S’ and I had met before at a party in Plymouth. She had remembered meeting me and my OH because both of them were born in Birmingham, thus had lot’s to talk about. Apparently, her mum knew of my OH’s mum’s family – which would have made for an interesting discussion if my Oh had been with us!
At the end of the evening I suggested we split the bill five ways but was firmly told, ‘No, we are paying for this, you can leave the tip.’ I was really touched – I certainly never expected to be treated to dinner – and appreciated this more than they will know. I will repay these wonderful people at some time in the future for sure…I think we will all be at a party towards the end of the year, so made a mental note to treat them to a couple of drinks at least!
Yesterday, three girlfriends and I indulged in a Spa Day – oddly enough, in Stratford-on-Avon again.
‘J’, ‘J’, ‘L’ and I were celebrating one of the girls big birthdays. Although we knew ‘J’ was treating us, when she then purchased a bottle of bubbly to accompany lunch (and wouldn’t allow any of us to contribute) I, again, realised how blessed I am to have such good, generous, kind, caring friends.
The third generous gesture happened today: after popping into town to purchase some breathable shorts for running (running in leggings almost killed me on Monday evening) I couldn’t get the dratted parking machine to take my five-pence coins. Asking the lady next to me if she could change them for a ten-pence piece she replied, ‘I’ve only got a twenty-pence but you can have it, and I don’t want the five-pence’s, or the change’. As I put the twenty-pence in, and ten-pence changed tinkled in the change-tray, I quickly turned to give her the change but she had already gone.
Now, twenty-pence might not seem a big deal but it was the fact that she generously gave me the money that I appreciated.
After spending a couple of hours with someone very dear to me undergoing chemotherapy today, the generous gesture of a complete stranger really touched me, restoring my faith in the human-race.
Family, friends, strangers: as I said at the beginning of this post, positivity is always out there – as it generosity and kindness.
It is not always obvious, but if you look deep, I believe you can find a positive in (virtually) every situation you encounter.